All posts tagged: relationships

Shady Love

Among the conversations that started as a result of my previous post, one of my readers shared her thoughts with me via WhatsApp; so I decided to respond to it as well as address other concerns.

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Letter to my 21 year old self

At 21, you have no clue what your future could possibly hold. You don’t have the slightest idea that you will discover your gifts and purpose in life through the most bizarre circumstances seven years later. Dela, you might have never thought that you will inspire and influence people through your works as an artist, designer and an advocate for purpose. Perhaps, you didn’t think that someday you will be sharing your faith in God with the world and the many miracles He’s done in your life.

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Hashtag Queer / Open-minded

Over the past couple of years, one of the biggest conversation topics online and in religious institutions is the topic of same-sex relationships. (The reasons are beyond the scope of this article.) One thing for sure, however, is that there are two sides to this […]

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Q&A: How can you make your partner trust you more besides opening up to him or her?

The first question is what makes you choose to trust people? Why do you trust God, your mum or me (to a degree)? I believe you trust us because we probably lived up to something we said we will do. This, however, is only one level of trust. There are various levels up this mountain called trust. Trust is built when we prove ourselves in different areas of a person’s life. And once we are faithful with the little, they can trust us with bigger things. I guess your mum, for example, will trust you not to steal from her because you tidied up her room and left everything intact. This is the same way trust is built in romantic relationships.

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Interview with Adukwei

Day in and out, sicknesses, accidents and other mysterious causes snatch the lives of our family members and friends, leaving us empty, hopeless and sometimes very mad at God. The commonest questions that floods the minds of the bereaved are, “God, why did this happen?” […]

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We are all in need

I check my social media accounts everyday and many people have a wise saying or two, some, if you read deeply between the lines are birthed out of hate, sadness or a difficult moment. Some also in trying to get their daily fix of joy, post an image and hope the comments and likes can liven them up. We all know or can relate because we have either lived through this or know a friend who has.

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Who is it?

So some time back I went for this awesome Christian program. The worship was incredible and at one point, everyone was in the Spirit, praying in tongues as the worship went on and all. You will think that I was in tune with the congregation, but no; I, in the midst everything taking place, was in two different worlds.

Let me be real. There was this really pretty girl standing a couple of aisles away from me—I can still see her face. And she just like me, wasn’t totally lost in worship like everyone else. She was, however, an usher and I, just a single guy looking for a lady. The struggle was real. #singleboystruggles

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When darkness falls

A couple of months back during a spontaneous worship session I wrote the words below. Through it all, the pain and hurt/ When I am low and covered in dirt/ I will sing your praise/ For I know you are with me/ With me even […]

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What is love?

As common as this word is, many have not an idea what it truly means. And as much as we tell each other “I love you”, we often times get confused as to what we are really talking about. And the reason is simple, love […]

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What makes a good father?

Earlier this month, I designed a Mother’s Day card for family, friends and clients. It was symbolic in nature—a mother in red surrounded by her kids, depicting the hen-like protection a mother gives to her young. Hills and valleys in the background depicting the low […]

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