Among the conversations that started as a result of my previous post, one of my readers shared her thoughts with me via WhatsApp; so I decided to respond to it as well as address other concerns.
When a guy is hesitant to commit, it literally means he has one foot out the door. He may have committed to dating to see if certain things will change but when it comes to marriage, he is uncertain…..
The first question is what makes you choose to trust people? Why do you trust God, your mum or me (to a degree)? I believe you trust us because we probably lived up to something we said we will do. This, however, is only one level of trust. There are various levels up this mountain called trust. Trust is built when we prove ourselves in different areas of a person’s life. And once we are faithful with the little, they can trust us with bigger things. I guess your mum, for example, will trust you not to steal from her because you tidied up her room and left everything intact. This is the same way trust is built in romantic relationships.
So some time back I went for this awesome Christian program. The worship was incredible and at one point, everyone was in the Spirit, praying in tongues as the worship went on and all. You will think that I was in tune with the congregation, but no; I, in the midst everything taking place, was in two different worlds.
Let me be real. There was this really pretty girl standing a couple of aisles away from me—I can still see her face. And she just like me, wasn’t totally lost in worship like everyone else. She was, however, an usher and I, just a single guy looking for a lady. The struggle was real. #singleboystruggles
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