Have you every really wondered why you are in a relationship? It’s like many go through that moments of friendship, infatuation and sometimes sexual tension then bam, out comes the question: would you be my woman or man? It all seems glamorous too, the nights out, long hours on the phone, blah blah blah. But … Continue reading Love and support
What are the kindest words you have ever heard? I don’t know about you, but some—not all—of the kindest words I have heard came from relationships that are now distant, broken or gone soar. This however didn’t and can’t change the impact of those words. Words of encouragement from a close friend, words of affection … Continue reading AWWWW – what are the kindest words you have ever heard?
So there was this one time I sat in church totally bored and distracted. I was going through a trying period of a sort and felt disconnected from the sermon. My mind was racing and in search of answers. My work, relationships and life in totality just seemed a mess, and I wondered if I … Continue reading What is your biggest proof of God’s existence?
As common as this word is, many have not an idea what it truly means. And as much as we tell each other "I love you", we often times get confused as to what we are really talking about. And the reason is simple, love is spiritual, it’s pure and from God: it’s a being … Continue reading What is love?
I check my social media accounts everyday and many people have a wise saying or two, some, if you read deeply between the lines are birthed out of hate, sadness or a difficult moment. Some also in trying to get their daily fix of joy, post an image and hope the comments and likes can liven them up. We all know or can relate because we have either lived through this or know a friend who has.
So some time back I went for this awesome Christian program. The worship was incredible and at one point, everyone was in the Spirit, praying in tongues as the worship went on and all. You will think that I was in tune with the congregation, but no; I, in the midst everything taking place, was in two different worlds.
Let me be real. There was this really pretty girl standing a couple of aisles away from me—I can still see her face. And she just like me, wasn’t totally lost in worship like everyone else. She was, however, an usher and I, just a single guy looking for a lady. The struggle was real. #singleboystruggles
The first question is what makes you choose to trust people? Why do you trust God, your mum or me (to a degree)? I believe you trust us because we probably lived up to something we said we will do. This, however, is only one level of trust. There are various levels up this mountain … Continue reading Q&A: How can you make your partner trust you more besides opening up to him or her?
1. Tell us a bit about yourself Nana Put my name under ‘the one striving to keep Jesus, real ingredients and eco-friendly in one sentence’. I am equal parts of a hard laugher and cryer. I am a business owner and the brain behind wholly kombucha and Kaia. I pick God’s truth over popular opinion … Continue reading Nana’s Story
Before I get into the article, I dey want share some poem I rep for english inside. It’s hard to tell But I called it love It’s hard to sleep I’ve got you on mind Got a million questions Why not you in my life? Then I remembered You were somebody else’s girl So I … Continue reading Somebody in girl
Among the conversations that started as a result of my previous post, one of my readers shared her thoughts with me via WhatsApp; so I decided to respond to it as well as address other concerns.
When a guy is hesitant to commit, it literally means he has one foot out the door. He may have committed to dating to see if certain things will change but when it comes to marriage, he is uncertain.....
Over the past couple of years, one of the biggest conversation topics online and in religious institutions is the topic of same-sex relationships. (The reasons are beyond the scope of this article.) One thing for sure, however, is that there are two sides to this conversation, those for and against it. Back in school, and … Continue reading Hashtag Queer / Open-minded
A couple of months back during a spontaneous worship session I wrote the words below. Through it all, the pain and hurt/ When I am low and covered in dirt/ I will sing your praise/ For I know you are with me/ With me even when I can't feel you/ With me even when I … Continue reading When darkness falls
A couple of years ago, I "rushed" into a relationship because I was scared someone else would have her. I was in love, we were worlds apart and I couldn't bear the thought of losing my young love to someone else. So I proposed though I knew it was too early and ended up spending … Continue reading The right reasons to enter a relationship
Over the years I have watched many relationships suffer because of two words,"poor communication." This is simply when both parties harbour questions, hurts and pains in their hearts and act on them without ever sitting with their spouses to tell them about the things eating them up. You hear statements like "she has been doing … Continue reading We don’t talk anymore
Think about it! You go to church on Sunday, go through the whole week indulging in your own secret sins and forgetting practically everything the preacher said—except the jokes; and come back the next week to listen to another sermon you will forget weeks later. Truth be told, this does happen to a lot of … Continue reading What’s the point of Christianity?
I never realised how much bearing grudges could really screw me up, till doing so left me reminiscing and regretting my actions. Little did I know till I wrote this, that one act of unforgivingness can lead to a chain reaction of problems: and many sour friendships. Till God finally got—or rather grabbed—my attention, I … Continue reading Unforgivingness
Time and time again, one principal has proven itself strong in my life-though it took me long to realise it-and it's this: love always wins. I first stumbled upon it after having one of the most loving and intimate conversations (ever) with a friend of mine after what seemed like a series of arguments; it … Continue reading Love always wins
One of the things I have realised about breakups and relationships turned sour, is this whole idea about using social media to either get an ex jealous or thinking about you. I guess myriads of people in this social media generation, have tried at one point in time or another, to take and upload a … Continue reading I want you back or maybe not
Have you ever told yourself that you will never do something or let something happen to you only to find yourself in the very position you never wanted? I guess we all have. I said to myself that I wasn't ever going to date a girl if I perceived that we will breakup. It’s not … Continue reading Love you, hate you, let’s break up
I was having a lengthy conversation with an old friend of mine yesterday, when the subject of jealousy in relationships came up. Our conversation began with a story about an experience he had at church. As he put it, he met a beautiful lady at his church over the weekend; they spoke a bit and … Continue reading Love and Jealousy
A friend of mine said the craziest thing this weekend; that he was going to write a "detailed business plan" to find a wife: he being the target market and she, the perfectly crafted product. I don't entirely know what he meant—but I found it funny. I was just wondering as he spoke, what a five … Continue reading WHO IS A HELPMEET? AND WHAT EXACTLY IS SHE SUPPOSED TO HELP HER HUSBAND DO?
A lot of people have heard about what goes down at Atemuda after hours. But very few people know the true lives or alter egos if you will, of the folk who hang around this "drinking spot" till morning; or the cocottes who sometimes, literally run at moving cars screaming out licentious words in the … Continue reading Atemuda
The biggest "thing" you are going to fight when pursing another girl, guys, or considering a new man, ladies, is your past. More specifically the memories of your hurts and failures. And guess what, in two years, every decision we all make today will be a part of our past. We all write our pasts … Continue reading The Heartbreak Monologue
It was about four o'clock pm, school was over and everyone was heading home. It was supposed to be a typical stress free day. That, however, changed when a sizzling blow to my gut sent me falling down on my knees. As I lay helplessly on the ground with tears in my eyes and dust all over … Continue reading Demasking
"Nobody is perfect!" These are the words uttered by a lot of people, whenever they are haunted by their past mistakes, or pricked in their conscience after indulging in an act they in hindsight regret. But as modest as this may sound, it's a statement of defeat that keeps us from attaining our ultimate … Continue reading The Darkest Valley
The topic of heartbreaks is not a strange one, but rather, one many people are familiar with. Some, unfortunately, are very familiar with it. Inasmuch as many of us will like to deny this, we all at a point in our lives, have been heartbroken or disrespected by a person we loved dearly. The reasons … Continue reading Love Lost
One of the easiest sermons to preach would be a sermon titled: love one another. It would be easy because, over the top of our heads, we can name a couple of families going through tough times: some broken and others on the verge of collapse or lacking unity. It would be easy to tell … Continue reading And they said, “love us, hate them”
It was about eight o’clock pm; I was sleeping with the hopes that my friend Rachel would knock on my door to wake me up—but she didn’t. Knock knock! Or was it a loud bang. All I remember was jumping out of bed after hearing it. It was my brother. “Dela they are leaving…and you … Continue reading Living Tributes
View fullsize Going up and live soon in the Gallery God is awesome!!! Finally I get to inspire people not just with words or literature but with contemporary art as well on a new level...Exhibition at Nubuke Foundation...paintings going up with the rest soon...The Love Series...Theme is love: the search for love and the desire … Continue reading Sales Exhibition at Nubuke Foundation (The Love Series)