Whenever many people hear about abuse of boys and men, they simply think of the times they read news items about young boys being molested by older men or how men have been abused by others. This, however, isn’t all there is to the subject. I dare say a lot of guys have been abused and don’t even know it. This is because of their narrow perception of what abuse is. The saddest part about this side of male abuse I will like to share is, that many men are told to be strong and act tough about a lot of things they go through. From childhood, they are taught to be gangster, tough, hard, you name it. In some cases, some are ‘‘praised’’ even whiles being abused. Let me share some personal experiences with you, so you better understand what I mean.
I accidentally damaged my phone some time ago. It slipped out of my hands and cracked upon hitting the ground. To my dismay, it became unresponsive. The only thing I could pretty much do was receive incoming calls via an earpiece. This unfortunate incident helped me assess the use of my phone. For the past few years, WhatsApp as well as other social media platforms has become my default mode of communication; a development which I believe appeals to other phone users as social media platforms provides easy and convenient ways for correspondence. How was I going to survive with a damaged phone whose only use was to receive calls?
This year, I made a decision to love myself more, to own my truth and appreciate my journey so far. So on Val’s day, I bought a card for myself from Yobbings (they have the most amazing cards but can someone tell them to make different sizes so that those of us who like to elaborate can have more room for that? 😂🤣😂) to give myself some love. To anyone out there who might need some reassurance to believe in themselves, this is for you.