Hashtag Queer / Open-minded

Over the past couple of years, one of the biggest conversation topics online and in religious institutions is the topic of same-sex relationships. (The reasons are beyond the scope of this article.) One thing for sure, however, is that there are two sides to this conversation, those for and against it.

Back in school, and this was in 2008; same-sex relationships had started to become more open and talked about. And I believe what really ignited the conversation was when a couple of students hosted one of the first queer parties in my hostel. The reaction from many was as you guessed it, fiery. It was an outcry and the heterosexual majority scratched their heads to rationalize the actions of these students.

Fast forward today, many in the heterosexual community are changing their views on same-sex marriages. And it’s not because they have decided to change their orientation, preference or gender. It’s simply because they have come to know many in the queer community not as the sinful lot or whatever derogatory term thrown at them. They have come to know and love them as humans.


To be open-minded typically means to be open to anything that seems foreign. But I believe we can take this further. Because let’s face it, what’s the point in being open to the desires in this world that many claim to struggle with? Being really open-minded simply means not judging others based on your strengths, orientation et cetera. It is not judging someone queer simply because you aren’t, but rather loving them as God loves us. Being open-minded means not drawing lines and discriminating. Being open-minded is about getting to know people for who they are: their struggles, journey and lives.

It’s easy to see this as weak and lacking the evangelical fervor to burn all the infidels to the stake, but truthfully, God in His wisdom lets us know that even He didn’t come to judge the world, but to save it. And how can a person be saved if the very people they expect to love them are lifting up stones to kill them (See John 8:1-11). This is the one thing the Pharisees always got wrong and it’s what many Christians get wrong as well. One thing to keep in mind is this: salvation is for the living, judgement is for the dead.

For God did not send the Son into the world to judge the world, but that the world might be saved through Him. (John 3:17)

When certain people in the church are told to love others, they see it as weak; they see it as their responsibility to avenge God for all the hate-filled words that were hurled at Him. But the question is: did God ask them to or are they doing this out of religious pride? Without love we will just be a bunch of fleshy church-going barbarians driven by our sinful desires (anger, pride, lust). 

Love and Judgement

At the time of the Old testament, in the Era of Daniel, Elisha, Moses et cetera (three mighty men who lived in different eras) the Word of God as was preached applied only to them. It contained mysteries and power that could be unlocked only by a chosen few—the Israelites. The Babylonians, Persians and even the Romans were never judged by the things they did that weren’t according to the law, for they weren’t a part of God’s Holy people. This all changed however when Jesus arrived. For after His death and resurrection, Gentiles—people born not to Jewish parents—could partake in the beauty of what was once reserved for a few. They—the Gentiles—could commune with God, walk in His power, peace, joy and love. They yearned for all of who God was by hearing and experiencing His goodness. In the same way, the queer community isn’t bound by every doctrine in the bible, for most aren’t even Christians. Yet we judge them by the standards that can only be upheld when one has the power of the Holy Ghost working within him. 

God calls people to repentance, yes, but not via war. He pursues us till He wins our hearts. And as His children He guides us, comforts us, teaches us and chastises us when we go wrong (See Hebrews 12:6-11). But for people who aren’t yet His children—those born of and empowered by His Spirit—and who haven’t tasted the beauty of His Holy Spirit, it is wrong to measure them by the same standard we will with someone who has received all the power, beauty and presence of God.

The bible is a constitution for God’s nation, His royal priesthood and chosen people and thus many things written in this powerful book do not apply to unbelievers. Truthfully many verses that make reference to homosexuality were written to rebuke believers not unbelievers: it was written for people who had sensed a need for change, people who yearned for the light, the truth.

For God did not send His Son into the world that He might condemn the world, but that the world might be saved through Him. Anyone who believes in Him is not condemned, but anyone who does not believe is already condemned, because he has not believed in the name of the One and Only Son of God.

“This, then, is the judgment: The light has come into the world, and people loved darkness rather than the light because their deeds were evil. For everyone who practices wicked things hates the light and avoids it, so that his deeds may not be exposed. But anyone who lives by the truth comes to the light, so that his works may be shown to be accomplished by God.” (John 3:17-21)

11 thoughts on “Hashtag Queer / Open-minded

  1. Well said! Its very wrong to use Biblical standards to judge someone not within that society. I mean if am in Jamaica, there are somethings that I can that would be considered illegal in Texas. Same goes for anyone living outside of Christ. But you see, I don’t know anyone who hasn’t heard of Jesus and Christianity. Unless in some remote unchartered territory. With that being said, these ‘queer’ people know about Jesus, they have been giving the opportunity to receive Him as Lord, some have received him but still want to remain in their sinful state, others rejected him. So to these people it’s not an issue of love, they are condemned because they did not believe. Why do I say that, cuz its written, you will become a new creature after you give your life to Christ. So for a homo, that means changing from who they are into a new creature! You don’t stay homo. And if you believe, then that name will transform you. I have heard and seen several cases of homos turned straight through the power of Salvation. That’s the testimony. Any excuse to claim its natural and cant be reversed is a lie from hell.

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    1. Thanks for sharing bro. Is it possible to connect me with the person with the testimony? Will love to share those testimonies on this platform. I believe that will help others in the Christian community who struggle.

      I feel like many people hear the gospel preached, even heterosexuals, but it’s one thing hearing and it’s another catching a revelation from someone who has walked the path.

      I guess many too have heard about Jesus but they heard about Him in a hurtful and ungodly way. So to those who had an introduction to Jesus the wrong way, we need to walk in Love to get them back. People have been shot, killed, thrown out of their homes and more in the name of being queer. Other molested and all which got them there in the first place . But I believe the gospel, the Love of God can cut deep!

      Thanks so much for sharing 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽


  2. Bold of you to write about it this. A lot of reactions coming from Christian circles in relation homosexuality is based on fear, a fear of change and a fear that if we somehow allow people who identify as queer to exist, it will ‘spread’. Listen, fellow Christian people. In case you haven’t noticed. The world has already changed. You pushing back, won’t make a difference. Focus your energy on learning how toeffectively relate and minister to people in queer communities, and no, that doesn’t mean preaching that queer people are worse than dogs. Who has ever come to Christ, because they were told they were worse than dogs? Smh.

    Please, right now it’s about educating yourself. Go and look up Jackie Hill Perry.


    1. Thanks for sharing. I just googled her. Read her testimony online. You are right, “focus your energy on learning how to effectively relate and minister to people in queer communities” . First time hearing about the dog thing you are saying. You are so right, who ever comes to Christ by being told they are worse than dogs. God bless you for sharing 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽


  3. This is great, I became friends with a lady from Southern Africa last year, she is a very nice person who calls everything as it is, she doesn’t go to church but says she knows there’s God, the issue here is, some people (who are all Ghanaians and Christians) hate this lady for just being herself, I realized she smokes and drinks but I am still friends with her and I have lost my “Ghanaian brethren” due to this.
    first of all, they claim to be Christians and I wonder what they understand by loving your neighbour, I asked one of them ” how can we preach the love of God to her if we are the same people condemning her?”
    I am not saying I’m doing the right thing and before some of you throw in the do not be unequally yoked verse, I think it will be great if we pray for everyone who we quickly see as a sinner instead of judging. “…for while we were still sinners Christ died for us.” show love as Christ showed did.
    ” Wherefore let him that thinketh he standeth take heed, lest he fall” 1Cor. 10:12

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    1. Matthew 5:46
      If you love only those who love you, what reward is there for that? Even corrupt tax collectors do that much.

      Matthew 11:19
      The Son of Man, on the other hand, feasts and drinks, and you say, ‘He’s a glutton and a drunkard, and a friend of tax collectors and other sinners!’ But wisdom is shown to be right by its results.”

      There is a lot of revelation in the above verses. But basically Jesus spent quite some time with people called sinners; loving them, healing them, counseling them and more. The moment we think someone is too filthy to be spoken or preached to, we have lost it. Because Jesus set the standard. The fear of falling back into sin, being influenced or attacked by the devil keeps many Christians from reaching out, but at the end of the day, the greatest impact will be made not by people who isolated themselves through fear, but those who went our in love and power to destroy the works of the devil.

      I love that your friend acknowledges God, your love and kindness will be greater proof of God. Say hello to her for me and let’s keep praying, she may become the next Paul 🙏🏽🙏🏽.


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