Whenever many people hear about abuse of boys and men, they simply think of the times they read news items about young boys being molested by older men or how men have been abused by others. This, however, isn’t all there is to the subject. I dare say a lot of guys have been abused and don’t even know it. This is because of their narrow perception of what abuse is. The saddest part about this side of male abuse I will like to share is, that many men are told to be strong and act tough about a lot of things they go through. From childhood, they are taught to be gangster, tough, hard, you name it. In some cases, some are ‘‘praised’’ even whiles being abused. Let me share some personal experiences with you, so you better understand what I mean.
This year, I made a decision to love myself more, to own my truth and appreciate my journey so far. So on Val’s day, I bought a card for myself from Yobbings (they have the most amazing cards but can someone tell them to make different sizes so that those of us who like to elaborate can have more room for that? 😂🤣😂) to give myself some love. To anyone out there who might need some reassurance to believe in themselves, this is for you.
Have you ever wondered why people visit zoos? Think about it. Is it just to admire works of nature or to marvel at God’s handiwork? Do we go to the zoo just to hear lions roar and to see monkeys swing from tree to tree? Yes! That’s exactly what we do…but why?
There is the simple reason. Every creature, object, mountain or work of nature designed by God serves a purpose. And you know, we like these creatures who are below us are exactly the same—we were designed for a purpose.
The first question is what makes you choose to trust people? Why do you trust God, your mum or me (to a degree)? I believe you trust us because we probably lived up to something we said we will do. This, however, is only one level of trust. There are various levels up this mountain called trust. Trust is built when we prove ourselves in different areas of a person’s life. And once we are faithful with the little, they can trust us with bigger things. I guess your mum, for example, will trust you not to steal from her because you tidied up her room and left everything intact. This is the same way trust is built in romantic relationships.
So some time back I went for this awesome Christian program. The worship was incredible and at one point, everyone was in the Spirit, praying in tongues as the worship went on and all. You will think that I was in tune with the congregation, but no; I, in the midst everything taking place, was in two different worlds.
Let me be real. There was this really pretty girl standing a couple of aisles away from me—I can still see her face. And she just like me, wasn’t totally lost in worship like everyone else. She was, however, an usher and I, just a single guy looking for a lady. The struggle was real. #singleboystruggles